“I don’t like my room or my bed mommy.” Liam whined with a smirk. He smirks when he doesn’t believe his own statement.
“Why don’t you just tell me what you really want – there’s never any reason to lie to me honey.” I chuckled back while I watched how cleverly he attempted to manipulate.
“I really want to sleep in your bed with you mommy.” He whispered smiling.
“I really want you to sleep in my bed with me too but I’ve got some concerns. Why do you want to sleep in my bed?”
“Because I want your love.” Now most people might melt here, but my kids are trained to say “I want your love” instead of whining – because that’s the simple truth – and the whining irritates me, while the above phrase is adorable! So I wasn’t folding that easily.
“Well, sometimes I might want to stay up to talk on the phone in bed or keep the lights on to read, and don’t want to wake you.”
“I don’t mind at all if you talk on the phone, or turn the lights on to read – it wont bother me.”
“Okay then sweet heart, you can sleep in my bed.” I resolved, smiling big.
And then he fell asleep while I talked to my friend on the phone and wrote this post. He’s just laying next to me soaking up all my love, simply by being near me while he sleeps, and I’m receiving his love right back. Isn’t that an amazing gift we’ve been given and give? When we stop and see that we are all equals, you see the child is mutually teaching the parent. My child’s needs, wants, fears, and tantrums, are no different than mine.
Once you shift your perspective, it becomes effortless to love.
When I took the time to ask my son what he really wanted and why, I was happy for him to lay next to me. WHY NOT? Once you shift your perspective, it becomes effortless to love.